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you get to have more...
loves your partner, but you're exhausted. You want an end to the win/lose arguments, the same fight over and over, the feeling like you're never getting anywhere. You try to express yourself and it just makes things worse... he gets defensive, things blow up...
AND YET...
you crave meaningful conversion, the ability to share your thoughts and feelings and be truly heard. You long to feel more supported, deeply connected and on the same page - to feel like you are growing together, not apart.
something tells you...
there's a reason you desire a more meaningful relationship... that a deep, soulful connection, must be possible... that there must be a way to encourage more presence from your partner, without having to argue, plead, or beg him to try... without building resentment and wondering how long you can keep doing this.
that voice isn't just hope, it's intuition...
YOU'RE A woman who...
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"This shit is GOLD!"
"I had hit a wall and knew there was a better way to BE MYSELF and BE TOGETHER in my marriage. DEEPER is better than any couples therapist we've been to because she gets right to it!"
"In therapy, I think we were afraid to get right to it - we didn't KNOW how to express our needs, wishes & hopes in a manner that was the best use of our time. Emily's ability to KNOW the how/what/ nuts & bolts of communication within a marriage is delightful! She offers relatable examples and easy action items to implement. Super impressed, just sign up!"
- Jen
i know what it's like
Even though we've been together for 22 years, I spent the majority of that time feeling exhausted - like I was the only one who was making an effort to connect more deeply, to grow together as a couple. I had a vision of what our relationship could be, but no matter what I tried... including three different couples therapists and years of 12-step work - nothing changed.
We both were making progress on our personal journeys, but I kept wondering when the "work" was going to seep into our relationship. I desperately longed to be able to talk with my husband, to share the deeper parts of me and feel seen and heard. I wanted him to be my person… not just going through the day-to-day together, but on a soul level.
But every time I tried to express my desire for more... he shut down further. I didn't know how to ask him, how to invite him in without him getting defensive or believing that he wasn't good enough. Every time I tried to move closer, we'd end up farther apart.
the truth bomb that blew everything up...
I was so desperate for him to show up and put in the work - to prove to me that I was important to him - that I couldn’t see how powerless I had become. Then one day a mentor of mine told me "If you're feeling abandoned, it's because you're abandoning yourself."
That sentence still resonates in my body today. I was abandoning myself in service of the relationship - prioritizing his needs, staying silent about my own to avoid conflict, waiting for him to notice me and offer me support. I kept begging him for something that I wasn't even capable of giving myself.
That realization shook me awake. I decided I was going to take responsibility for my codependency and heal our relationship from the inside out. So for the past 7 years, I have been deep-diving into the most profound, proven strategies to build a deeper, stronger relationship... and what I want you to know is this: it's way less complicated than it seems.
You can't repair connection by fighting for it, begging for it, or silently waiting for it. The hardest part is taking responsibility - getting over the "why should I have to?" mentality, and focusing on self-awareness, strategy, and presence. That's when the magic happens...
learning to repair connection - with yourself, your partner, and your soul - is the foundation to living a profoundly deep & meaningful life.
“Our relationship has really shifted.”
“I see now that I - for lack of a better word - dominated him. I have not allowed him the space to show up because I didn’t know how to give that to him, and now that I do, it has been such a shift for us."
"Now that I give him that space, he has just totally changed. I can see he feels more confident, more secure, he's stepping into this whole other new person.
It feels like an incredible gift.”
- Nina
It’s one thing to follow your own path in life...
but a whole other thing to pave a path with another person... one that aligns with love, trust, and mutual growth.
Especially for a woman who’s been been struggling to feel truly seen and supported in her relationship, but was raised in a paradigm where women are supposed to keep him happy, stay quiet, avoid conflict, not upset others, and please everyone else at the expense of your own needs...
No wonder you feel defeated, drained, frustrated, unsupported, and alone.
it's time to change that.
i wish every woman knew...
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you're exactly where you're meant to be
It's natural to want more depth, intimacy, and soul connection.
In fact, every relationship goes through three phases:
The honeymoon phase
The power struggle phase
The conscious relationship
Many couples get lost (and give up) in the power struggle, where both partners feel powerless and fight to be understood.
If you're reading this, chances are you are sensing that growth edge and ready to shift into conscious partnership. You can learn surprisingly simple tools shift out of the power struggle and start building a more conscious, connected partnership.
the person you are desiring - is you.
More often than not, women wanting more connection with their partner need to start with more connection with themselves, learning how to meet their own needs and embody their own power and authenticity. When you work on strengthening who you are and how you relate to others, you can bring more integrity, trust, and self-agency into all of your relationships.
You do not have to carry
You are not responsible for fixing or changing your partner. You don't have to mother, teach, or heal him. Your role is to hold your own growth with grace and invite him to meet you.
It's about loving him as he is now AND holding a mirror to his potential. That's when you become the catalyst for transformation. You remind him of who he is — and in doing so, you both become more of who you are meant to be.
You get to support his journey while staying rooted in your truth.
the weight of his growth
Your journey is sacred
As you build more trust and confidence in who YOU are, you will naturally shift the dynamic of your relationship - and while it can be difficult, this is the path to deeper connection. Your growth can serve both you and your partner - it’s a gift to you, to him, and to your shared connection.
Your sovereignty IS the key to intimacy
You can't call forth a conscious, healthy, relationship when your bond is built around your wounds.
imagine...
... you express your feelings honestly and openly, and he doesn't get defensive or turn it around on you. Instead, you are met with compassion, support, validation and reassurance.
...you no longer feel like he is judging your every decision and action, you release the inner conversion you're having with him in your head where you are justifying and defending yourself, and confidently make decisions knowing that he trusts and respects you.
... you stop doing the silent dance around sexpectations and learn how to drop into your body to cultivate desire and passion. You get to touch and get to connect in a way that feels deeply expansive on a soul level.
... you both take responsibility for your own happiness instead of relying on each other to fill emotional voids, you find other people and interests to bring joy and meaning into your life, and it sparks more fun and excitement between you.
... you stop sacrificing your well-being to maintain peace or to "save" the relationship, you re-allocating your energy to focus on YOUR healing, your journey, and your growth.
... you realize you have the power to CREATE a relationship where both of you can evolve together in a way that’s authentic, fulfilling, and soul-nourishing
how it works...
deeper framework
Through exploring the five types of intimacy, the Deeper program is designed to help you deepen connection with yourself first. This is the root - our foundational work required to build more intimacy on an external level through your relationships.
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deeper is the path to
sacred union...
By combining
the Feminine qualities of listening, healing, following inner wisdom,
desiring, creating, transforming
&
the Masculine qualities of strategy, structure, implementation,
focusing, action-taking, boundary-setting
You get to create the relationship you crave
structure
next cohort runs April 22 - july 10
deeper includes...
LIVE modules
Weekly 90-minute calls with steeped in strategic, energetic, and mindset magic to completely transform your relationship (12 total)
LIVE group Q&A calls
Twice monthly 90-minute personalized coaching calls (6 total)
LIVE PARTNERSHIP Q&A calls
Monthly 90-minute calls with me AND my husband - to ask us anything and get his perspective on some of our most challenging issues (3 total)
LIVE somatic INTEGRATION CIRCLES
Monthly embodiment practices to help integrate the work and deepen your connection to SELF through ritual and nervous system expansion (3 total)
Online community space
High-touch support between calls & connection with other women
Value-packed Workbooks
Deepen your personal journey and integration through personal reflection
Lifetime Access
to replays & workbooks
NEW!
Wellspring application
Deeper is more than a relationship program, it is a place to receive - to drink deeply from the well of wisdom, nourishment, and support - so that we may go into our lives and pour out this nourishment into others. Because we cannot give what we don't have.
If you truly need more accessibility, I invite you to apply for deeper support (in the form of reduced tuition).
the work that works...
Our Clients Say
hi there...
I'm Emily
and this is my husband, Paul. We've been together for 22 years, and married for 15. It's been a rocky road... through codependency, addiction, cancer, miscarriage, parenting, financial stress... but it's also been a beautiful one. Together we have circled the globe (twice!), and been integral parts of each other's spiritual journeys.
For years I carried a silent guilt of not knowing how long I could last in a relationship where I felt invisible. I knew he loved me, he just didn't know HOW to love me in a way that I could deeply feel and receive.
About 7 years ago, I realized that I didn't even know. I had been so wrapped up in wanting to be rescued that I was abandoning myself.
So I went on a journey to find out what it would truly take to heal myself and build a true partnership with him. I decided to take on the responsibility of doing everything I could to see if our relationship had truly had the potential that deep in my heart I believed it did.
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QUESTIONS
FAQs
DOES MY PARTNER NEED TO PARTICIPATE?
This course was designed for women to do the work on your own, and is built on the idea that it only takes person to improve a relationships.
How and when you choose to include your partner in this work is up to you, and I will offer guidance on that right away to help you navigate that decision.
WHAT IF WE’RE NOT MARRIED/I'm not in a relationship?
This information is incredibly useful and applicable to all relationships - even with your parents, coworkers, and children. The content will be geared towards romantic partnerships, but who you love and how long you’ve been together is your business. All relationships essentially function on the same principles: connection and communication.
IS THIS ONLY FOR STRAIGHT, MONOGAMOUS WOMEN?
This class is for women and non-binary persons who want a conscious and empowered approach to building a stronger, more secure relationship. These teachings will 100% apply regardless of who you love. I speak a lot on Feminine and Masculine concepts, but from the belief that all people embody BOTH.
what times/days are the live calls?
You will receive a full program schedule at enrollment. The program runs April 22-July 10. In an effort to accommodate a variety of schedules, I typically stagger call times to one morning and one evening per week. Replays will always be uploaded to the portal within a few hours of the call.
HOW LONG WILL I HAVE ACCESS TO THE COURSE?
As long as I have access to the internet, all recordings and workbooks are yours to keep :)
I’M STILL NOT SURE IF THIS IS RIGHT FOR ME. CAN I CHAT WITH YOU?
Only you know what’s right for you! If you have any other questions, free to email me and if you'd like, I am happy to connect over Zoom.
this is your invitation...
If you’ve been waiting, hoping, or even trying to do the work to make things better, but are feeling defeated, drained, frustrated, unsupported, and alone ...
then sister, the wait is over - help is here.
Deeper is THE program that will have you feeling confident, empowered, grounded and steady as you work WITH your partner to talk more, connect more, listen more, laugh more and love more,
Without...
... endless conversations that go nowhere and leave you doubting yourself
... him getting defensive and shutting down, causing you to tend to HIS emotions instead of yours
... dragging him to couples therapy where you hash out the surface level stuff and don’t get to the real root of things
... waiting for him to initiate change and do the work.
The MORE you desire is waiting for you.